8 Ways to improve communication/conversation

Effective conversation/communication is necessary everywhere, either in personal life or in professional life. Most of us are working on this and they are gradually improving. Actually things are correlated. Every word has meaning. And we forget to be cautious about the words. That is why the connection start to erode. And when we think about all this chronicle. We find that we made measly mistakes. But impact is wide. 

Often people forget some basic and the most important points. those make a heavy impact on conversation. If you keep these in mind always. If you execute these in daily practice you will find some improvement automatically. Points are as follows:-

                            

1). You must not be offensive:-  Everyone has self respect and everyone has a break point where he can not bear things. You must respect him and his feelings. Do not try to offend anyone in order to show yourself superior. That may cause harm to relationship.Every action has reaction so try not do something bad.

2). Use jokes in sentences:-  You must be a little wacky. People do not like to  talk to a person who is a bore, even though they won't hate you for that. But people start to judge you and will reach on conclusion and you won't have a clue about that. So learn some jokes and use them in conversation. no one hates jokes. 

3). Collect knowledge as much as you can:-  Having knowledge is always good for anyone. You would have more things to talk about. It will make your conversation better. It will help you in being a good listener. Being a good listener enhance conversation skills. 

4). Rationalize response/statement with question/truth:-  There should be rationalization/truth in your statement and response. Yes, you can use exaggeration in your statement. You can not make someone fool with the heap of lies. People start to recognize your ostentatiousness soon And bear your false comments as long as you speak. 

Rationalization means  statement should be connected with the main stream of conversation. Example; someone asks you, "what is going on." and you replies, "I came to office."

5). Every person is a good person:-  Never think that someone wants to harm you and your image. Because people don't do this. Every person has good learning. No family make its member a demon. They don't harm your image provided you don't hurt their self respect. things are correlated. Everyone is good if you are good to them.  

6). Equality must be in your mind for the person:-  Do not underestimate the person sitting next to you. You never know what he can do; if you are not over smart. He must be handled equally. It would be much better if you prefer him over yourself. It shows that you are very generous and you care. If you won't do so he will not like to talk to you again.

7). Avoid sensitive discussion:-Avoid sensitive discussion with the person sitting next to you. It leads to a mess. Discussion about religion, color, caste and gender etc are the topics those are sensitive. People have different thinking according to their perception and no one can change this. Do not try to intrude into their lives. It seems amture step to take and people start to skip these kind of persons.

8). Do not jealous:- Jealousy is something, you can not hide this feeling and everyone can notice this easily. It seems awkward and people avoid those who are jealous. 

God gives chance to everyone and this is his time. Next time, it will be yours. So be happy with others when they get the opportunity. 

Reform or illusion in India

                         Revolution or illusion in India

I thought, this is phase of revolution but when something revolutionary happens people of that specific region play a vital role. But here I can not see anything like that. And people have to play their roles it is an inevitable part of a revolution. I think this is not the revolution or reform. This is only an illusion to embrangle people. We are innocent people. Time has long gone, when pluto called us the wisest people on earth. We have gone through the worst part of time and now we have become vulnerable in order to be strong. Anyone can easily allure us if one talks about power and glory.

In order to get power and glory, we need to have something. Let us discuss about those:- 

1). We must have a healthy society. We need good food. We are  approx 1.35 billion people. What if we all are healthy and wiser. But we are facing a terrible situation. We are facing a serious level of hunger.
If we talk about malnutrition so India got 17th spot for the highest numbers of children. Do you know a malnourished child have lower IQ than normal child?

2). We must have educated society. We all know education’s condition in India. A father does not send his children to school. In case if a poor father send his children to school, it does not make any difference in his or children’s lives. Because he knows that his children are going to have only low standard oatmeal at school. People do not have faith in public institutions. Do you know, having less faith in public institution means nothing is good in the country? 

3). AIIMS is the only one hospital where people want to go but only AIIMS is not enough. People refrain from using public hospitals at ground. A child of poor father can not afford the fee of private hospital. Is this children's fault that they were born into a poor family?  Does a mother give birth to children just to let them die? Government spends money and appoint good doctors in hospital still people does not believe public institute. Why? 

4). In order to become a powerful country, we must have good infrastructure that can assist from farmer to industrialist. However we are doing good in this area.

5). Do you remember the case of salman khan’s drink and drive case? He crushed many people on the road. If they had their own house, they would not have gotten crushed by the car of a drunken celebrity. This can be an incident of urban area but I know many persons in rural those do not their own houses. They have to sleep on the streets. 

6). It says,”Women is a goddess”. Because she is the cause of our existence. She is axis. She bears acute pain many times in the form of various problems but she never deny for her responsibility. She never complains. She is the very first teacher of successors. The successors who take a civilization to next level. Alas! A goddess has no place in this male oriented society. She does not have a choice. She can’t take her decisions. Being centre of the society, our duty is to give them the safest and the most respected place in society. Do I need to explain to the condition of a woman?

This is our India and Indians. We have major issues than housing, health, education and food. The issues are religion, cast etc.

Religion is the way of living of a human. A Hindu would not feel energetic if he would not pray to his Bhagwan. A Muslim would not feel energetic if he would not pray to his Allah. And the same goes with other religions as well. Hindu feels sacred when he applies sandal on his forehead. Muslim does not feel sacred he does not wear a specific cap on his head.

I want to live in mud then how can I live in a cozy room. It's my way of living. Let me live as I want to live.

Many people know this but no one gives a shit. Because this is none of their business at all. Their only business is to earn as much money as they want.

This is only us those have narrow approach of thinking, narrow approach of understanding. We feel happy if we see someone in pain and become sad when we see someone is thriving. It can be a humanitarian habit and we all are in habitual of it. We can respond in another way like we can start working on us to gain ability so that we can thrive as well. But we pull leg of each other, this is not the way, how a human act.

I heard about many reforms and I heard that there was some specific group that plays a big role. They called themselves intellectual group. It includes writer, reporter, and highly educated person of the society. They educate people, what to see or where to focus. They know what is going on in the country but still they are pretending like they have seen nothing.  They don't know anything. Some persons are flowing with the wind because they have their own interests in flowing. 

Problem is not politics or religion. Problem is our attitude. Our attitude toward our country. An intellectual take responsibility according to his ability. They know how to control a reinless demons. They give authorities to those who are worthy.  But it is our bad luck, those intellectual has become dormant in India. 

This can not be revolution this is only a horrific illusion. We must think over it and let our eyes open to see the truth. Charity begins at home.